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Why no sex is better than bad sex.

http://www.flickr.com/photos/thomashawk/4457105368 By Thomas Hawk

I know what you’re thinking.  Why is a close to 45 year old woman talking about this subject?  Well, I live vicariously through my single friends because I am married.  However, this isn’t my first rodeo, trust me.  I’ve been in the dating world, met the duds and had some mishaps along the way.  I was fortunate enough to meet my current husband who makes me laugh, smile and makes Mrs. Peric feel like I am the Queen.  Now that’s not to say all couples don’t have the “Five celebrities you can cheat on your spouse list,”  because he and I both do.  We laugh our asses off over it.  I am lucky, some others are not.

One of my girlfriends had a birthday recently and she went out with her lady friends.  She said and I quote, “The guys at the restaurant weren’t even taking the notch off the first part of my pants.”  I had quite a LARGE laugh over that comment.  I’ve been there.  She’s one of the rare women out there who will NOT lower her standards period.  Don’t have a job?  Bye.  Do drugs or drink heavily?  See ya.  However, I believe that there are a lot of lonely women out there who would settle for anything than nothing.  Quite frankly, I find that quite sad.  Why waste your time?  Why do the walk of shame?  Are you not worth it?  I think women lose sight in the fact that what they have to offer to men is special and it is a privilege to take part in their lives.  I think loneliness, the lack of listening to their intuition and low self-worth is a killer to women.  Period.

http://www.flickr.com/photos/katypang/4256841998 By katypang
Katherine Pangaro

So let’s switch this around.  I do have a lot of male single friends.  One of these gentleman is named “Bob.”  Bob has a lot of bravado, machismo and has a sick vent on seeing life, but he is a good guy.  He is what I call the “Conqueror.”  He’s got a “gate code” story that I cannot write here.  It’s his story and only he can tell it in a way that would make Fifty Shades of Grey seem like Kindergarten.  Quite frankly, I have never seen a man hunt a woman down as Bob has.  It’s a sight to see and when I watch because he ALWAYS gets the girl….always.  It’s like watching National Geographic when the lion or cheetah is hunting.  Good luck running Ms. Gazelle, you are going down.  It’s almost methodical in the way he approaches women.  However, here is what’s sad.  It’s NEVER a long-term relationship (usually one night only) and so it’s sex here and there, sometimes good and other times BAD.

http://www.flickr.com/photos/lince/418622605 By La Lince
Anna

I guess my point is this:  I think not participating in sex at all is better than numbing down your sense of who you are by hanging out with an idiot that you wouldn’t introduce to your parents.  Why put yourself through that heartache?  Just for 20 seconds of “woo?”  Just doesn’t seem like very much fun to me at all.  Maybe I’ve gotten older and wiser?  Could it be that going through that game is just a waste of time and exhausting?  Maybe.  I certainly hope my beautiful nieces and son for that matter get the opportunity to read this to understand that there is something better out there for you, but ONLY IF you are patient and wait.

Saulo Cruz via photopin cc

For the record, the five celebrities are:  Johnny Depp, Tom Hardy, Javier Bardem, Benecio Del Toro, and if he was still alive – Bruce Lee.

http://www.flickr.com/photos/brtsergio/54553733 By brtsergio
Sergio Bertolini
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